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Thursday, March 31, 2011

Chickenscratch: Happy 27th Anniversary Bob

Chickenscratch: Happy 27th Anniversary Bob
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Happy 27th Anniversary Bob

Today is my 27th wedding anniversary.
Bob and I statistically should not have made it.
Married at 18 and 22, pregnant, no college between us, living paycheck to paycheck, no clear goals, and our moral compasses were a tad underdeveloped.
Well 27 years later, a lot of tears, even more laughter, and the strong direction of a loving Saviour and we have arrived to this point.
4 beautiful daughters and 4 grandchildren and more years to look forward to.
Love ya baby,
-Your Trish

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Fear Identified

There are many variations in the realm of fear.
Healthy fear when in danger.
Inset fear from past experience(s).
Fear of the unknown/phobias, etc...
The area I am thinking of lately is a fear that is usually hidden from ourselves and yet can manifest itself as a control issue when we interact with those around us.

Here is an example:  the future well-being of your children and their ability to be a viable member of society hinges upon your skills as a parental influence.  The decisions you make in your life affect them as well.  As well as how and when you discipline, set boundaries and  show affection.  You have a set idea/plan/goal in mind.  Internally you stress over every possible scenario.  You obsess to the point of smothering your children or just give in to the pressure, release your hold, and let it all play-out.  Balance is an elusive ingredient.  Just when you think you have achieved a measure of it...poof!
But since your child has a will and agenda of their own...conflict and tension appear.
Fear is your new best friend.
Now as I look back, I realized the majority of the choices made were good.  BUT...yep another But... fear motivated my life.  I could NOT screw this up!  
So now my daughters have some stories to bring to the show when Dr. Phil invites them to share their angst.  More later...
Gotta go,
-Trishtastic

Chickenscratch: Sex and old(er) age

Chickenscratch: Sex and old(er) age
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Sex and old(er) age

Next month is my 46th birthday.  I do not have an issue with announcing my age to everyone.  It is Googlable (is that a word?) anyways and I earned everyone one of those years!
My birthday has made me think of sex.  Or the near extinction of it as we progress toward the inevitable grave/nursing home (the same in my opinion).
Your formative years are filled with cautious tales of unwary virgins and the perils they have encountered.  As I love to yell out to my 17 yo as she heads to school, "Guard your carnal treasure!".  Some do until the "I do's" and some squander it on another young person who has no clue they have set the benchmark...for good or bad.
Then your adult life is spent either in pursuit of a likeminded partner, sometimes to your health's peril, or you hash out the tiny details with the one.  You know like how often, where at, what type, holiday and birthday exceptions, etc...
But (and this is a big but...one t not 2--let's keep this PG folks) when we hit the middle years where we finally know all the parts and what we want/need the mind and heart are willing but the body not so much.  What the hay?  So not fair.
Now exercise is not just for health reasons but to save your sex life.  Dieting is for maneuverability not just for show.  We hit the highlights, not necessarily in passion, but because we may not last for the long haul.
"It's hard work...weekends and holidays...it's hard work."  Quote intended ala GW Bush.
So, all this to say that sex is important...our existence depends upon it.  
Also, expect more health related blogs covering the whys and wherefores of a "healthy" sex life, ie he needs more testosterone, she needs progesterone, we need to take a mini vacate each quarter, etc...
Please share your own tips...just not the dirty details or I may have to retaliate with my own and scar my children for life.
Ciao for now,
-Trish has left the building

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Friends for more than a season

With age comes wisdom?  Hmm, let's call it understanding.  For me that is a more accurate statement.  
I now understand better each day the importance of the relationships we brush across in a day.  Some are embedded in our journey, some are just a whisper, some ebb and flow as  a distant tide returning to its home shore.  Each are valuable.
I love meeting new people.  You may hate walking into a room of strangers, I love it!  They are just friends I have yet to meet.  People fascinate me.  Its like an E! Channel Biography.  Each person has a backstory.  A history of life experiences, an extended circle of other people they know.  Childhood, teen years, the 20s, the 30s, the 40s, the 50s, the 60s, and hopefully the years beyond.
These people have stories that they lived inside the history that is recorded in the text books. They saw it with their own eyes, lived in the air space that historical experience is contained in.  It is part of them.
There are recipes they have perfected.  Family lines traced back to the Old Country.
My favorite are friends that cannot be shaken.  The kind that you don't hear from or see for years and yet can pop up and talk to you as if it was just yesterday you were so chummy.  I love that!  That implies trust.  A familiarity and comfort that stayed the test of time.  The best friendships ever.
Lorri, thank you for being one of those friends.  Thank you for thinking of me in this future endeavor...we will succeed...and thank you for being the best Lorri Miller ever!  http://lorrimiller.blogspot.com/
Toodles, this babe needs to sleep...work comes early.
-Trishtastic

The Blog Challenge...7 Days in a Row

Ok, Lorri here we go.  I pledge to blog for the next 7 days straight even if it looks like Diary of  a Real Boy... "today was brite an fare".
I am so ashamed that I have not blogged since January 22nd...at least it was in 2011 right?
Ok, this is not my real blog...I will post a separate one so the comments...hint-hint...stay together.
Ciao for now,
-Trishy
P.S. Do you love my new wallpaper?  It is my logo for Chickenscratch created by my youngest daughter Kimberly...soon to be a famous photographer/mixed-media artist.